By: Staff Contributor | From: TrueRants Network Often times in life we have disagreements and arguments with our family, our co workers, our boss, strangers, and just about anybody we come across for some reason or another. It could be that you disagree with a co worker or supervisor about how a task should be completed, or you feel strongly about a position on a political or social issue, or it could just be that a family member or spouse told you something that you don't agree with or asked you to do something you don't want to do. There are an infinite number of reasons why we get into verbal battles with one another, but unfortunately, sometimes these word wars can go a little too far and end up costing us our job, relationship, friendship, or even a potential goal we have set because we said the wrong thing or got too "into the moment". But what if there was a word that could diffuse almost any situation and prevent unintended negative results? While it is certainly important that you stick up for yourself and communicate your feelings to others, sometimes the right response is just to say, "Okay!" When I learned the power of saying "okay" and started using it in my day to day life more, good things happened. My relationships seemed more fulfilling, family members were more receptive, and my co workers and boss appeared to be more on my side and I actually received more recognition at work. How could saying a word like "okay" completely shift the conversation and bring more peace into your life? Well here is what I came to learn after tossing my ego aside and simply saying "okay." This word does 3 major things in an argument or intense conversation. 1. It acknowledges what the other person said and that you were listening. Instead of responding with a statement in direct opposition, sometimes by saying "okay" the other person will feel you have at least understood what they have said and have agreed to accept their statement on some level. 2. It prevents any further argument from developing. You can't really argue with the word "Okay". 3. It works in almost any situation and with any statement and doesn't commit you to anything once said. For instance, your spouse says "The dishes need to be done and trash taken out." You respond, "Okay." The statement has been acknowledged but you did not agree to do it. Or, "I'm tired of you showing up late for work everyday!" You respond, "Okay." You did not say you would NOT NOT show up late for work anymore but acknowledge you had in the past. Even in direct insults it works. "Why don't you go jump off a bridge!", Your response "Okay." Doesn't mean you will do it, or believe whatever is being said, it just means "OKAY!" So next time you feel a situation or conversation is going in a direction that doesn't benefit you, just remember to say "Okay!" |
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